Imagine feeling empowered for life through a positive birth experience
Ruth Lyons Creator, of Inspired Birth
Hello gorgeous pregnant lady…
I’m Ruth Lyons, experienced KG Hypnobirthing Practitioner and the proud creator of Inspired Birth.
I’m extremely passionate about hypnobirthing as I know that it absolutely works. Anyone who knows me would agree that I really do LOVE hypnobirthing. Words cannot explain how amazing I have found it and I am in constant search of the answer to ‘why doesn’t everyone use it?’, if I could I would be up on every rooftop shouting, ‘hypnobirthing is incredible’ and no I am not crazy…!
It gave me the confidence and knowledge to help me control my mind and body resulting in three extremely positive birth experiences. I would honestly say that hypnobirthing has changed my life and I use some of the techniques on a daily basis.
My mission is for every woman to be empowered for life through a positive birth experience. I feel very privileged to be able to teach hypnobirthing and to be part of this very special time in a couple’s life….….oh and I also love baby cuddles.
I believe that a positive and better birth experience is so important, far more than just the actual act of birth itself. The birth experience can impact your future decisions on childbirth, it can affect your long lasting health, it can affect the bond with your baby, feeding, the likelihood of postnatal depression, your belief in healthcare professionals and your self-confidence. Your birth experience is not just about your baby’s physical health but also your psychological health. Ask any child development specialist and they’ll tell you the same thing: the best predictor of a child’s future wellbeing, future educational attainment, future mental health and future happiness is the quality of the bond formed between that baby and his or her parents in the hours, days, months and years after birth. Confidence from a positive birth experience can provide you with the best possible start to the hardest but most rewarding job in the world – and that’s the best possible start for your baby, too.
I want you to enjoy your pregnancy so that you actually feel excited about the birth and aren’t just ‘hoping’ that it will be ok. The preparation that you will do through hypnobirthing will leave you actually feeling excited for your labour to start. At last you can put into practice everything you have learnt with the utmost confidence in your body’s ability to give you the birth experience that is right for you and your baby.
‘Don’t just hope for a great birth, prepare for one’
I chose to train with the KG Hypnobirthing Association as it’s the training of choice for midwives and it also provides the most extensive course.
I live with my fabulous husband and three wonderful, energetic and highly spirited young children, two boys and a baby girl……and our cat Alfie.
I was ecstatic to be pregnant with our first child, I remember my first positive pregnancy test and it showed that I was 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant. From that day forward, on an almost daily basis, I checked using online calculators to work out how pregnant I was; 5 weeks and 2 days, 14 weeks and 3 days, I would even use different calculators to see which one made me the most pregnant! I couldn’t wait for our baby to arrive and I was so happy to be part of the pregnancy journey. In addition to my excitement I also felt totally overwhelmed – there was so much to consider; whether I was getting enough folic acid, when I would tell work, how many midwife appointments I should attend, which foods I couldn’t eat (thoroughly disappointed that my beloved M&S prawn mayo sandwich was now a no-no!), which scans we should have, should we cancel the holiday we’d just booked, how would we cope financially during maternity leave, which room would be the nursery, what pram would we need, should I buy a sling, what should we do about childcare, how would I return to my job (yes I’d not even had the baby yet!) AAARGH…… I found it both exciting and overwhelming at the same time. Oh and I forgot to mention the sickness!!!
Then I started to think about the birth…….I have always believed that the human body is incredible and that birth is a natural process not a medical one. I am also a strong believer in the power of the body and mind and that the two are deeply and intrinsically linked but I still had a niggling doubt the ‘what ifs’. And the ‘what ifs’ always seemed worse when I was awake with pregnancy insomnia in the night!
I can’t remember the exact moment I ‘heard’ about hypnobirthing but I knew that I wanted to explore it more and understand how it could help my birth experience. I felt it was in tune with the type of birth I had hoped for; natural, positive and empowering. I also wanted my husband to be fully involved and for it to be a joint effort, I also wanted his role to be as important as mine (maybe not quite equal J but almost).
We have had three wonderful and very different birth experiences. Our first was a normal hospital birth and the second was a hospital water birth and both took place in Harrogate Hospital. Our third was a home water birth with the Leeds Home Birth team. For our second birth in Harrogate Hospital we were very lucky and had a hypnobirthing midwife supporting us throughout which made the experience really special.
For each birth I used all the tools that I had learnt through hypnobirthing and I partnered with my baby and my husband and we all worked together as one team. For all three births I had no pain relief. Not through stubbornness or wanting to power through, but rather because I wanted to be aware of every sensation in my body. I felt more in control as the skills I had acquired through hypnobirthing gave me the confidence to birth our baby calmly & safely.
I’m keen to stress that we are very lucky to live in a society where medical support is available if you feel that you need a little extra help.
My career has been very varied. After completing my maths degree at Leeds University, I followed the footsteps of many newly grads and went travelling around the world for a year. When I eventually returned home, I trained and worked as a secondary maths teacher for a few years which I loved. For the last 10 years I’ve been a successful business development manager in the fast paced corporate world. In between these roles I set up a bespoke tailoring company. Although all very different roles the common thread running throughout is my desire to help, teach and build long lasting relationships – I love people!!!